Virtual schooling has more kids and teens online now than ever before. While technology has led to ease of learning, resources and flexibility, it can also make more teens vulnerable to cyberbullying.
Remember, bullying doesn’t just happen at school. It can happen anywhere, including through texting, the internet, social media and gaming platforms. So, just what is cyberbullying? It is most often repetitive behavior aimed at badmouthing, humiliating, scaring or shaming those who are targeted. Examples include:
- Spreading lies about someone or posting embarrassing photos of them on social media
- Sending hurtful messages or threats using online messaging platforms
- Impersonating someone and sending mean messages to others on their behalf
So what should you and your child do when it happens to you? Here are some helpful tips to not only recognize cyberbullying but to deal with it.
Prevention
The first step is to place appropriate permissions and restrictions on technology usage and access to electronics. Setting reasonable limits early on can prevent kids from becoming too attached to their computers and devices later.
It’s also a good idea to have open communication with your child. Encourage your son or daughter to come to you with questions and concerns and let them know that no subjects are out of bounds.
Spot it and Stop it
There are some red flags when it comes to bullying; behavior changes include isolation, withdrawal and avoidance of activities and events. Be on the lookout for changes in your child’s behavior and inquire about the root cause.
If you observe any behavioral or emotional changes in your child, be sure to address the subject in a calm, non-threatening, private manner at a time and place when both you and your child can communicate openly. It may even be helpful to rehearse what you’re going to say to your child in advance.
Another telltale sign of cyberbullying is your child’s preoccupation with his or her computer or device; fixation on a device in concert with behavioral changes can often signal something going on behind the scenes.
If you do need to check your child’s device, it’s recommended that you have a discussion with them first and involve them in the process. Unless it’s an extreme circumstance, it’s rarely advisable to betray your child’s trust by going through their private messages without their knowledge.
If your child cites a cyberbullying instance, it’s important to remain calm and let them know you’re glad they shared it with you. Then the two of you can have a discussion about the best next steps, whether it’s alerting the bullying child’s parents, closing an online account or another method; by working together, you can arrive at a solution that will not only help remedy the issue but also alleviate additional stress for your child.
Keep Communication Open
Keep the lines of communication with your child open; continue to have an ongoing dialogue with your child after the incident. As parents, it’s up to us to inspire confidence in our children, both online and off.
And, if you and your child have done everything you can to resolve a situation and nothing has worked or something is in immediate danger, seek the appropriate authorities for help.
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